Attachment style is something that came to my awareness a couple of years ago when I was digging in to some inner work around some of my key relationships. It’s powerful. In fact, I have a favorite overview video that illustrates the basics perfectly. You can watch that video on YouTube HERE.
In the video below, I am showing you an article written by Tera Brown, one of our Inspired Healers, and I tell the story of one way that I show up for my kids to make sure they feel securely attached to me.
Take a gander:
Read Tera’s original article HERE.
Attachment Theory can help you understand why the things that provide you with a healthy emotional trigger (emotional barometer!) so that you can go deep and change the meaning that you put on those things.
Attachment style types:
- Securely attached (healthy)
- Insecurely attached (sad and worried – dysfunctional)
- Fearful avoidant (people pleasing hell – among other painful conditioning – dysfunctional)
- Dismissive avoidant (have fun being alone… dysfunctional)
What I discovered is that knowing which way you generally attach to people (especially your parents) is the key to opening the door to looking inside yourself (start from within) and finding out that there are things we think, that are well studied, and regular for people with our attachment style. It’s SO much easier to take that known list of limiting beliefs and release them purposely, rather than stumbling through life trying to recognize them on our own.
The trick is to be self aware enough to look at this in a “get healthy” kind of way, rather than asking people to change to accommodate a dysfunctional attachment style and essentially… stay the same and ask people to jump through hoops so a person can try to be happy staying the same.
That just doesn’t work out. It’s a recipe for disaster.
That’s why, in my video above, I illustrated how I helped my son to walk through a simple emotional breakthrough so that he could own himself in a secure, positive way. In doing so, he feels secure with himself, and securely attached to me… his mommy… his person.
I hope you go out and inspire someone today!
Bronwen Oehlschlager
Emotional Breakthrough Mentor
Monetization Coach
P.S. Get to know me better HERE.
