How do I forgive

A few years ago I was asking God “how do I forgive…?” I mean REALLY forgive. It seemed like everyone said to do it, but nobody could actually tell me HOW.

I remember sitting on my bed with my phone, praying for answers, looking at youtube for videos of someone who actually said how to do it instead of just TO do it – and I was getting frustrated.

Even ho’oponopono was just not doing the trick. It helped, but something important was still missing and I just couldn’t lay my finger on it!

In that moment of frustration, I leaned back and asked God to give me the answer that nobody seemed to be giving. The soul nudge to open YouTube again came to me and at the top of the suggested videos was the answer.

How do I forgive…? Talk with myself?

In the video was an interview with a Tibetan monk. He wasn’t talking about forgiveness. He was talking about getting to know yourself. Truly.

Throughout watching that video, the thought kept coming to my mind that I had been numbing myself. I hadn’t really been LISTENING to me. I had been emotionally unavailable to me. I had not been vulnerable with me.

And it was time to change that, so I took the advice of the monk, and I sat down with a cup of herbal tea, and chatted it up with… me.

Through that conversation sprung forth my signature Forgiveness Technique.

You can find that on in the free course that comes with our free community membership. We also have a free PDF for a simplified version of the technique.

I’ll give you a nutshell version of the process right here so you can take action right away.

For this technique, sit with a pen and paper, and see yourself as your Highest, Holiest Spirit, and your injury as a part of your body that needs to express itself to find relief.

Expression is key to how to forgive, and you don’t have to express any of this pain to the person whom you feel hurt you – at least not for this technique. Sometimes we want to tell people that what they did hurt so that they can take responsibility, but for this process, you just need to allow yourself to be heard by YOU. Your highest self.

Listen. Support. Yourself.

That sounds hard, but it’s not. It’s just a matter of understanding what is going on in your mind, how to release the heaviness that has been weighing on you.

You can find the answers to that HERE.

I wish you great healing in your forgiving. It’s freedom.

Catch my love,

Bronwen Oehlschlager
Shayoli Hope Center For Healing
Emotional Breakthrough Mentor

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Bronwen Oehlschlager

Hi, I'm Bronwen.

I own and operate the Shayoli Hope Center for Healing in Utah County. I work together with an independent team of collaborators who have messages that I find valuable for whole healing and prosperity.

At Shayoli Hope we are dedicated to bringing healing, hope, and prosperity to God-centered, awakened souls. That means we keep our focus on Christ and God the Father in all of our work together. We believe that in our healing process, we are finding the wheat, and gathering up the tares to burn.

Burning the tares means awareness of what we have believed that hurts (tares), making a new decision to believe something that serves us better (wheat), and collecting the tares, in full awareness, to purge them from the harvest so that we can live free and abundant in wholeness.

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